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My partner listed my chronic fatigue syndrome as a reason not to be with me. But my illness is not who I am.
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Yes that's good Georgia. Or perhaps I'm too thick? Ok folks we'd better get tooled up! I didn't know that shame Report. Ha ha this just get better and better!

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Even if we don't find a curlupphor we've had a good laugh. Walking Sticks Unite Report. I like the creativity of differntdating but I'd be wary of joining. Now that is pretty funny! Ha ha nobody thinks like you Les!

You're such a tonic. Aw that one's really sweet Mary, and so apt; that's exactly what we need, a bit of tenderness. Yes that's what I thought Georgia. And we need to be handled with tender loving care too don't we? I remember feeling like that, and how hard I worked to become independent and self-sufficient.

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To have a social life, a career and relationships. I thought I was keeping my ME from affecting the people closest to me, but suddenly there we were in the kitchen, as my partner listed it as a reason not to be with me. I felt completely blind-sided. So what had happened? Why were they now frustrated by the limitations they felt ME had placed on their own lives, by the fact I could walk to the cinema, but had to get the bus back?

Worse, why had my loving, caring partner suddenly fixated on the one thing I hated about myself, and could not change?

Perhaps this is a symptom of modern relationships. We are told to believe we deserve the best for ourselves, to make sure we do not settle for anything less than perfect, and that when we meet someone they must fulfil every single criteria we set for our romantic destiny. When did we lose the capacity to love someone for their imperfections, as much as for what we think is perfect? The ability to accept someone for who they are, and how they are different to you, seems to be rapidly decreasing from our dating world.

Spending as much time as we could together aside from when I needed to rest. The best part of the whole equation was that we both discovered that we were just over grown teddy bears. By far our favourite past time was just lying around just cuddling. Cheap, cheerful and restful! My doctor would have been very pleased. But I can distinctly recall the moment I fell in love with Solene.

It was cold and grey outside. Boards of Canada were playing on my stereo. I lay in her gentle embrace when all of sudden something epic dawned on me. I was in love! And before I knew it, the words slipped out of my mouth like a slippery fish and swam into the unsuspecting ears of my captive prey. My lips found hers and we kissed passionately while a surge of electricity made its way through my central nervous system.

So set in motion a truly momentous love affair. One particular week in winter saw Solene working on a pig farm in order to qualify for an extension to her Australia visa. Each day was very wet, very cold and very windy. So she just spent her days wandering around the farm in her cherry covered gumboots trying to stay warm.

Meanwhile, I was on a particularly heavy dose of antibiotics at the time and in each moment felt as if I were swimming through a giant wall of toxic jelly. But the point is we got through it together. The burden of my illness was never too heavy for us to handle.

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Love will always find a way. Naturally it presents a challenge for those of us trying conserve energy. But like so many aspects of a healthy relationship it comes back down to clear communication. In all honesty for the first few weeks of our relationship I was too exhausted most of the time to even consider a roll in the hay.

Admittedly this severely challenged my concept of manhood. And it simply made those times when I did feel like Casanova even more fun.

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Rather the greatest challenge for me was feeling like I was always holding Solene back. Not being able to spend the night partying with her friends meant we either stayed at home, which I often felt guilty about. Or she went out alone, which left me worrying about all the men out there waiting to prey on my lovely, not so innocent girlfriend. But this was less about my illness, and more about learning to let go. Plus the mark of true love is not having to spend every minute together.

But allowing your significant other to grow in whatever direction they need to. Sometimes on their own. Another difficulty was forgetting that I often appear quite healthy to those around me. I rarely mentioned when I felt like wet cardboard, so Solene had no idea that I was unwell so much of the time. My quietness could easily have been interpreted as grumpiness or disinterest when in fact I just had a killer headache and loved her company. The fear which lurked deepest in my consciousness was the risk of some how passing my condition onto my beloved.

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But this was just paranoia. Do not let fear get in the way of true love. After all who you interact with is only a part of the picture. In fact they go together like hot gluten free toast and organic peanut butter. That is, very very well. So chew, swallow and digest any limitation you might be placing on yourself. Pick up the phone and call whoever came into your head while reading this article.

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Oh wow, this is wonderful! This is something I can read again to remind myself that I will fall in love one day despite illness. I think you have really good advice and congratulations with your beautiful love. So happy to hear it Christiana. If this post does inspire you to find true love all I ask is that I get invited to the wedding. Or at least have a piece of the cake sent to Australia. After a relationship break up due to chronic fatigue three years ago I have remained in voluntary singledom ever since and not due to lack of offers!